• Ella Malvino

18 things i've learned in 18 years

As my 18th birthday just recently passed, I decided to reflect on the life lesons I have learned throughout my years. I am so grateful for all the experiences I have had; because good or bad I have learned something essential from all of them. So, sit back and enjoy 18 life lessons (in no particular order) that might have an impact on your life.

1. This too shall pass.

I know that this one is much easier said than done, but it is important to remember that most things in life are temporary. You are not going to be sad and anxious forever, not heartbroken forever, and not lonely forever. It is just a phase of life that many people go through and it will eventually go away, it just has to run its course.

2. Not all love is made to last a lifetime.

This does not only apply for intimate relationships but also friendships. Sometimes the love you have for someone is not going to last forever and that's ok. And if you are heartbroken or were just in a relationship, know that if your time with a person ended, it may just because you were only supposed to be with them for a short time, not forever.

3. Speak up and ask questions

Whether you are afraid to ask a question because you are in a room full of the opposite gender, because you think your question is "dumb", or too shy to speak up, I challenge you to do it! I guarantee you that someone else is waiting for someone to ask the same question as you.

4. NEVER leave someone alone at a party if you think they could be put in a dangerous situation

This one should be common sense, but if your friend is too drunk at a party and someone wants to go hook up with her, stay with her and make sure she sobers up before anything happens to her. It is always better to be safe than sorry. If someone wants to be with her that badly, they can wait until she is in the right state of mind. This goes for both genders.

5. Be involved in politics, because if you simply don't care about what's going on in your country or the world, it's because you are too privileged to be affected by it. Inform yourself always.

6. Never believe your friends if they say "I'm fine" when you know for a fact, they are anything but fine.

Let your friend know that you are there for them and want to make sure they are doing ok rather than just brushing it off and letting them settle with their emotions.

7. Just write that ten-page paper.

There have been so many times I have not wanted to write a paper, finish my homework assignment, or research some historical figure because I was simply too tired and didn't want to do the work. But working on that assignment in advance is going to cause you so much less stress than waiting to the last minute and often once you get going it doesn't take as long as you think it might.

8. Your family should be a priority.

They just should be. Blood is thicker than anything in my opinion and you must savor the moments with them since it does not last forever.

9. Chocolate chip cookie dough cures all wounds.

Let me know if you want the recipe to my moms famous chocolate chip cookies.

10. Make time when you can dance around with all your friends singing at the top of your lungs.

This is a necessity

11. Ten Things I Hate About You is one of the best movies ever created.

Honestly, if you don't agree with me, you are lying to yourself.

12. Try to turn off your phone every once in a while to be present!!

We are all way too addicted to our phones and it is a very sad thing to see a bunch of friends at lunch not talking because they are all on social media. Turn the phone off, there is nothing that important that you are going to miss! Enjoy your friends and family that are real and in person, not an app that often dictates an altered reality.

13. Be the friend who stays up all night comforting a friend in need.

If your friend is suffering through emotional turmoil, a breakup, or is just unable to sleep because they are sad, let them know you are always with them and not alone.

14. Understand that anxiety is simply a feeling and that it is ok to have "off" days.

Not every day is going to be 10/10. Sometimes you are going to feel completely awful and others are going to bring you total joy and happiness. With every wave of anxiety or sadness, there is going to be a wave of happiness and freedom, it just takes patience and time to get there.

15. Call your grandparents every now and then to show them you care about them always!

Trust me, your grandparents want you to call them more often and if it may seem tedious or boring to you, just remember how much joy it gives them knowing you took time out of your busy day to call them.

16. Trust your gut more often!

There is no worse feeling than when you first thought an answer on a test was one thing but in the end, you circled the other and got it wrong. Your gut actually makes instinctual decisions and I find that trusting it always ends up working better than you thought it would.

17. It's ok to cry over that boy that hurt you.

Just remember though, if he hurts you that much, he isn't worth it...Must admit, this one is hard for me too sometimes.

18. Just do the damn work out!

There are so many days when you don't want to work out or do any physical activity, but just do it, even if it is only for 30 minutes. You are going to thank yourself later for it.


19. Just be nice.

We need more people in the world who are just genuinely nice and looking out for one another. With so much hatred in our society, humanity needs to step it up and start treating one another with respect. Compliment that person, lend a hand when needed, and if you notice someone who is lonely sitting at lunch by themselves, go and start a conversation with them. We need more good in the world, so let's do everything we can to make more of a welcoming and positive environment.

There are 18 little life lessons I have learned throughout my life. I am so thankful to be able to live the life I live surrounded by friends and family who make me feel loved 24/7. I'm sure I will have more and more things to add to this list but I know I am going to add some of these to my New Years Resolution list because we only got one month left of 2018! How crazy is that!

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